With spring imminent and just around the corner, the season of weddings are upon us. This year, I have just one to look forward to: My sister Jesi's to the wonderful Dewey Donkey Lips. His lips are not actually like a donkey's, it's just something humiliating I like to call him. We are kids at heart, the lot of us.
But, with wedding season looming, I've been thinking about life and my own marriage and what brought me to this moment. I had a bit of a revelation after talking to a friend who is coming on a ten year milestone in her own relationship, but isn't married. She's not insistent about a wedding, but wants very much to be engaged. Certainly she will get married, but doesn't want the grand thing. She only wants a small, intimate engagement and she more than any of it, she wants her beau to propose.
What's holding him back? Certainly, he loves her dearly. They've been living together since the beginning of their ten years together. They're in love and they get along great, but he's reluctant to change. Most men are... But, what he is missing is acknowledging how short and mundane life can really be. Many couples don't want to get engaged or married. That's fine for them, but for some it's about fulfilling a dream and being happy.
There are far too few milestones to look forward to once we've hit a certain age. This can leave a life feeling stale, weathered and bored. Life is about looking forward, while managing to enjoy the moment. What moments are more precious than a marriage, the birth of a child, a promotion at work and other such engagements? Unfortunately, these things don't happen every day. They are sprinkled sparingly throughout our lives. I know my friend and I know her beau and I know he'll make an honest woman out of her.
It just got me thinking. I've been married for two years this summer and I still reflect on that day fondly. There will be other moments, that will carry this weight. I'm sure if I'm ever traditionally published, that will be another occasion to toast and if we decide to adopt a child when we're financially stable. Certainly, my own sister's wedding on the rise is a reason to be happy and my other sister's first pregnancy. These are the moments that make life worth living and it's got me in a reflective and good mood today.